When advocating is worth all the hard work...

I've been an advocate for several years, run several blogs (including this one) and multiple Facebook pages and have spoken up about what I advocate for. Usually, it's met with hate and name calling when I advocate-- don't worry I'm use to it. Today was different. As I was getting my blood drawn (those pesky CBCs!), I was telling the girl doing my blood test what I advocate for and telling her about my blogs and such. Her eyes lit up and she smiled "THANK YOU so much for speaking up! We need more people to do that! Please keep doing it!" And then gave me a hug. I shared my blogs with her (if she's reading this you're awesome!) and left. She probably has no clue how she made my day, that a simple word of encouragement made my crappy day the best. Thank you nurse! You really have no clue how enlightening it is to hear that people want me to keep doing it. 

Sometimes, Winnie-the-Pooh Can Remind You

“You can't stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”
― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh 

 This quote is something I just ran across while looking for another quote. I thought I would write on it because it hits close to home. 

Over the last year, I have had to learn some very hard life lessons on my own but hey, that's part of being an adult right? One of those hard life lessons is that I need to start going to people, that making friends or requesting help starts with me going to others about it. I need to stop waiting around for people to come to me because most likely, they are waiting for me to come to me. 

Although this can be very difficult for me, being Autistic and having issues making friends, I need to trying to find a way past that fear. It's not going to go anywhere but figuring out a way to go around it will help me in the long run. 

Another thing that I learned, was that sometimes it's not about making friends but about making the friendships you do have better than they were before. Hanging out more, talking more, making an already existing friendship stronger-- THAT can go a long way as well. My grandfather always told me that you can only count your true friends on one hand. I sometimes think that this is true. The true friends stick around when things get tough and don't run when you need them. I lost a lot of friends over the last year, but I gained some pretty amazing ones and saw the ones who are true to me. 

When life hands you lemons...

Sometimes, life doesn't turn out the way we plan. We have this idea, this vision, of what we want it to be like when we are younger. I wanted to be a special education teacher for the high assistance kids and go to my favorite university. Life, didn't happen the way I wanted it to. Two years into my schooling and I became ill and had to take a break from school only to learn that that sort of work is something that I will never be able to do again. It broke my heart, but after having a year off from school, and much time to think about it, I learned that just because I can't do what I wanted, it doesn't mean that I failed, it just means that I must find another avenue to pursue. I thought long and hard, where to go from there and realized... I love to write! I was already writing a novel, I could continue school to get a degree in creative writing! It wasn't my first choice, but it is something I am good at and it's something that I would love to pursue. 

When life hands you lemons, but they're not the lemons you hoped for, you can still make lemonade if you try hard enough. If you can't make lemonade the first time round, that doesn't mean you failed, you just have to try try again! You never know how delicious that lemonade will be if you don't continue to try! Don't give up, just because one dream is unable to come true for you at the moment, doesn't mean there is not other dreams you have that you can pursue. 

Life has its series of ups and downs, twists and turns, it's just a matter of how we view it and deal with it. If we view it negatively, we bring that to us. If we view it positively, we bring that to us. I could look at my physical issues as my downfall, that I am a failure to society, but instead I take what I am dealt and help others learn from what I go through. I help show them that life is worth living and that no matter what you go through, you can come out of it stronger than ever--- even if it doesn't seem like that now. 

“Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
― A.A. Milne

Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. A. A. Milne
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Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. A. A. Milne
Read more at: http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/a/aamilne402613.html

Be the Light

Today as I was scrolling through facebook, I noticed how often I see my friends and loved ones posting negative things about their life. I know that facebook is a place where people can vent without having to say it out loud. Media allows us to express ourselves in an (almost) safe environment. Hey, I am definitely not perfect and being disabled, and living a lone, I have at times resorted to venting on facebook. It's incredibly easy and I can get my feelings out right? But it's not just venting anymore, there's so much crime, hate, loss, death that sometimes it's too much to handle and one almost wants to curl up into a ball and wish it was a nightmare, just a dream and not reality. It's reality though, we can only do what we can with the world around us. It may seem hard, like we can't do it. We're only one person right? Wrong. We can make a difference, even one small ripple can completely change a person's day, life and thoughts. It can make them happy, or in the case of what's going on right now-- sad. We must be the beacon of light for people around us. Make them smile, show we care, be the positive light in the world that offsets so much negative. When someone vents on facebook, instead of attacking them or making fun of them, offer your assistance. Show you care. There's a reason (other than looking for attention) that a person vents. It could be that this person feels like they have no one around them to turn to. It could be that they are scared to say it out loud. There could be many reasons why and it's not our place to judge those who need to say it, who need to vent. Sometimes, they are looking for support. Help them, don't be a judge. Be there for them, you never know how much help you can be by just showing you care.

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